Why Do People With Low Self-Esteem Suffer From Fear and Anxiety?

People with low self-esteem often grapple with deep-rooted fear and anxiety, typically stemming from emotional abuse experienced during their formative years. This abuse may come in the form of malicious teasing, sarcasm, unfair judgments, and harsh criticism. Constantly made to feel ashamed, guilty, or unworthy for simply being themselves, they grow up expecting similar treatment from others, even as adults.

This expectation of rejection and criticism creates a state of hyper-vigilance, making them overly conscious of how others perceive them. They become preoccupied with the fear of being ridiculed, humiliated, or ostracized, which only intensifies their anxiety.

The Anxiety of Fitting In

Another common source of anxiety for those with low self-esteem is the uncertainty around how to fit in with others. Rather than seeking out opportunities to learn or grow, they may feel overwhelmed by their perceived lack of social skills or knowledge. They might not recognize that they could take classes, read, or seek help to acquire these skills.

Instead, they see their lack of knowledge as a personal failing, a unique flaw that sets them apart from others. They often overlook the fact that people with healthy self-esteem are also unaware of many things but aren’t afraid to admit their ignorance or seek assistance.

The Cycle of Avoidance and Fear

Due to their fear of appearing “abnormal,” people with low self-esteem often deny themselves the chance to learn or grow. They might avoid social situations altogether or use excuses to escape uncomfortable encounters. For example, John, who has low self-esteem, felt embarrassed at a reunion when his former high school friends were discussing the financial stock market— a topic he knew nothing about. Instead of admitting his unfamiliarity and seizing the chance to learn, he quickly excused himself, fearing judgment.

Understanding the Truth About Self-Esteem

If you struggle with low self-esteem, it’s crucial to understand these truths:

Everyone has embarrassing or humiliating moments.
Every human being has faced rejection in various areas of life—whether in college admissions, job interviews, or relationships.
Everyone makes mistakes; nobody is perfect.
Self-esteem is not something you’re born with; it’s your birthright to have healthy self-esteem. Low self-esteem is learned from the conditioning and experiences imposed by others.

How to Overcome Low Self-Esteem

The best way to overcome low self-esteem is to recognize and release the influence of past conditioning. Techniques that I use in my Deep Inquiry Processes can help you let go of feelings of shame, guilt, and unworthiness linked to negative childhood memories. Once these feelings are released, your self-esteem will naturally improve, and fear and anxiety will diminish.

Take the first step towards a more confident you. Call Evelyn at 96980688 to start your healing journey today!