Naturopath & Integrative Health Coach
Why Do People With Low Self-Esteem Suffer From Fear and Anxiety? People with low self-esteem often grapple with deep-rooted fear and anxiety, typically stemming from emotional abuse experienced during their formative years. This abuse may come in the form of malicious teasing, sarcasm, unfair judgments, and harsh criticism. Constantly made to feel ashamed, guilty, or...
What is the Cost of Your Rage? He just had a daughter and he aims to be a better father… His wife is saying that either you seek help or I am leaving with the child… He can no longer stand the daily rage attacks and just want to feel peaceful for once in his...
Brain Chemistry and Anger Do the following characteristics describe you? Do you consider yourself or do others consider you to be very sensitive? Does emotional pain, or perhaps physical pain, really get to you? Do you tear up or cry easily – for instance, even during TV commercials? Do you tend to avoid dealing with...
Powerlessness: Why It Triggers Anger and How to Overcome It Does this describe you? Everything needs to be exactly your way in order for you to feel in control If things were not exactly the way you wanted them to be, you would feel out of control When you can’t control a situation, you would...
How Does Emotional Abuse Affect Self-Esteem Research shows that the parenting style used during the first 3 to 4 years of a child’s life is one of the strongest factors influencing their level of self-esteem. What is Parenting Style? Parenting style refers to how parents treat, guide, and nurture their young. It encompasses the verbal...
弱者与强者疗愈篇 是不是有常常听到或对别人说这样的话：‘你这么软弱怎么能够在这个世界生存！’ 我们以为我们所瞧不起的懦弱的人，其实不是正真的懦弱。只是他们从小被亲人欺压，批判，受了伤，所以潜意识里讨厌那些比他们’强’的人，不知觉地选择了做个善良但软弱的人。因为强者就代表了坏人，是个加害着的脚色。 相反的，被欺压的人也可能不知觉地选择仿效那些欺压他的人，变得强势，毫无同理心的人。因为他宁可成为坏人也不愿成为善良但容易被欺负的人，而往往不知觉的去伤害身边的人，还觉的自己是对的。’适者生存’变成他们的口号。但其实两种人的伤口是一样的。 所以如果你是那个坚强的人，请你试着了解那个软弱的人，不要只看到表象。而如果你是那个常常被批评是弱者的人，你也不要被这些强势的人的表面给骗了，以为自己就真的比他们差。因为当他们看到你的软弱时就会被勾起他们潜意识受伤的记忆，才会对你说出鄙视你的话，希望这样就会让你不敢在他们面前软弱，免得勾起他那不堪的回忆。搞不好他们比你还要更软弱，因为这些人通常连自己的伤口都不敢去面对。 真正的强者是富有包容心跟同理心的，是不会用以上不恰当的方式来改变身边的弱者。而弱者努力地表现善良其实是来让自己感觉没那么卑微，甚至是一种想要比强者高一等的方法。 其实我们都不必要执着与自己是否是强者还是弱者，因为执着只会让我们卡在一个脚色里，使到我们无法迎回被遗弃的自己。对强者来说，执着于坚强代表他遗弃了善良的自己，而对弱者来说，他放弃了他坚强的一面。强者会无法体谅别人而遭到人际关系破裂，弱者会常常不敢为自己争取该有的福利或为自己打抱不平。 所以当我们迎回了这些被遗弃的自己，也代表着我们迎回了原本就该属于我们的美满人生。
Anger As A Cover-up for Shame Frequent explosive anger can cause a great deal of havoc in relationships, both personal and professional. Angry people find themselves increasingly isolated. Other people do not want to be near someone who is likely to become hostile or filled with rage. Families and friends eventually get sick and tired...